Monday, January 30, 2023

Compilation: 7 Books on Raising Boys


Seven! Seven? Can you believe I've only read seven books on raising boys? With a blog called Of Books and Boys, you'd think I would have done more thorough research into the topic of raising boys. Alas, perhaps that is my problem. My library has hundreds of books on raising boys, but I was too busy reading general parenting books and even more busy reading novels. This compilation post was surprising to me. I was sure I had read more than seven books on this important topic. Here is my paltry list from first read to last read:

  1. The Purpose of Boys by Michael Gurian 
  2. Raising Cain by Dan Kindlon and Michael Thompson
  3. Boys Should be Boys by Dr. Meg Meeker
  4. What a Son Needs from His Mom by Cheri Fuller
  5. Raising Boys by Steve Biddulph
  6. Bright Beginnings for Boys by Debby Zambo and William G. Brozo
  7. Things My Son Needs to Know About the World by Fredrik Backman
So, all you boy moms out there - fill me in. What are the best books about parenting boys that you have read? My sons may be almost grown, but perhaps another mom might be looking for more suggestions.

Thursday, January 26, 2023

Book Review: Intermittent Fasting for Women Over 60

One problem with receiving so many e-mail book recommendations (Bargain Booksy, BookBub, etc.) is that I jump quickly and purchase, then ignore the books in my Kindle for PC app. This book, Intermittent Fasting for Women Over 60: The Ultimate Guide to Lose Weight, Boost Metabolism, and Increase Energy, by Lauren Grant, was an exception. Despite not reaching 60 yet, I've been reeling again from verbal blips and mental lapses. The need to resume my anti-Alzheimer protocol (Dr. Dale Bredesen, The End of Alzheimer's) is strong. What I lack is willpower. Even when I know resistance is the best thing for me, I succumb to the lure of the foods I enjoy eating. Thus, I was eager and ready for a pep-talk. Lauren Grant's book came at just the right moment. While it is not "the ultimate guide," it is certainly a perfect pep-talk if you want to resume time-restricted eating.

The book was a quick read. Nothing new to line my arsenal but encouraging to get back into the swing of things. I bookmarked a few of the recipes at the end of the book: Italian Keto Meatballs with Mozzarella Cheese, Pizza Omelet, Keto Tuna Salad (surprised by this one since I normally ignore tuna recipes), Keto Salmon Quiche, and Egg Cups. At the end of the book, the author offers free resources to help you begin your lifestyle changes. Although I didn't copy many of these, I intend to use "The Food and Fasting Log," "The Habit Tracker," and "The Monthly Sleep Tracker." Those forms will be helpful as I begin anew to alter my lifestyle with healthier food and fasting choices.

Monday, January 23, 2023

Book Review: Down the Hatch

I snatched up this quick Agatha Raisin mystery by M. C. Beaton when I had only moments to peruse in the library. If I had something of greater interest, I might have set this aside. However, I had already started and vetoed two biography audio books, and so I stuck it out for this one. Not my favorite M. C. Beaton mystery, but entertaining enough. 

I found the main character, Agatha, abrasive. It was hard to like her or care about her well-being, even when pursued by criminals. In a final scene, on the white cliffs of Dover, you wonder whether she is done for and will plunge to her death. While the sleuthing was passable, it wasn't noteworthy. I'm sure there are people who adore the Agatha Raisin books. I liked the location and the accent of the narrator in this audio book. Sadly, not enough to seek another Agatha Raisin book.

Thursday, January 19, 2023

Book Review: Mr. Dickens and His Carol

Samantha Silva recreates a fictional tale of Charles Dickens and his book, The Christmas Carol. Mr. Dickens and His Carol contains many historical facts: things like the flop of Martin Chuzzlewit, the fawning hangers-on looking for Dickens to provide for them, and the pressure to produce a Christmas tale on short notice to pay bills. It also takes creative license to bear out a decent story. Having read several Dickens biographies, I was familiar with the basics of this story. While certain elements took me by surprise (Eleanor Lovejoy's character and role), it was a wholly entertaining holiday read. 

Silva has conjured the remarkable giving nature of this master writer and walked him through despair and out into sunshine, just as the "carol" does. I think we all have a bit of Scrooge in us and can overlook blessings and good. Yet, life can lead us through experiences that change us for the better, making us more aware of our blessings and more willing to extend a hand to others. The book ends with an author's note and suggested book club questions. I appreciated the author's observation that "a good biography tells us the truth about a person; a good story, the truth about ourselves." How I wish I had Dickens' story-weaving abilities! Silva ends her note with this, "This book is my tribute to his prodigious gift, written with full awareness that he is, and always will be, inimitable."

Monday, January 16, 2023

Mid-month Mention - The Bonifields


Because my 2023 goal is to PRAY MORE, READ LESS, I plan to provide some mid-month posts that highlight things/places/people I recommend. For this first month, I introduce you to the Bonifields. This husband/wife duo is steeped with talent and creativity. What's more, they use these gifts for the Kingdom of God. Randy Bonifield sings and writes music. There are several of his songs I adore, but this first one, I loved so much that I shared it with my church back in DeKalb, IL, and they began using it in their worship times (many moons ago).

Fan the Flame in Me

Lord, renew in me the fire of Your spirit

'Til I begin to see the power of Your love.

Make my life to be blazing with Your holiness;

Father, fan the flame in me.

To be holy, for Your honor,

So that Christ be seen in me.

To be holy, in Your likeness,

Father, fan the flame in me.


 

Another favorite Randy Bonifield song is called "Passion."

Passion

Give me a passion for You, Lord.
I want to know You more.
Give me a heart that is true, Lord,
To seek You like never before.
Renew my mind. Renew my spirit
To walk in Your holiness.

Open my eyes; I want to see
Visions of You living through me.
Open my heart; cause me to love
For I want to follow You,
I will follow You with all my heart.

Give me a passion to serve You.
I want to follow on.
Give me the power to choose You
When all of the feelings are gone.
Renew my will for I am determined
To walk with You every day.

Open my eyes; I want to see
Visions of You living through me.
Open my heart; cause me to love
For I want to follow You,
I will follow You with all my heart.



And Randy's newest song, Come Unto Me (I Am With You) - a bit longer, but well worth a listen - is so comforting. 

As Randy says in a funny song he penned (Left Behind - The Rapture Song), he "married up." His wife, Wendy, is equally creative. About 2 years ago, she started a new podcast called On Carlson Drive. Her voice is terrific to listen to and her stories bring back memories of simpler times. Since we both grew up as children of Salvation Army officers, many of her memories mirror mine. Here is a YouTube airing of her initial podcast (or you can listen wherever you tend to listen to podcasts):



May you be blessed through their ministries and may their creativity lift your eyes to the One who loves you most.




Thursday, January 12, 2023

Book Review: Remember

After watching Still Alice again and reading Every Note Played, someone mentioned Lisa Genova's book, Remember: The Science of Memory and the Art of Forgetting. I must not be alone in my fears over dementia's beckoning call. It felt like Genova was specifically trying to put readers' minds at ease over the normal memory glitches we all routinely experience. In this book, she shares tips and pointers, things like pay attention, make a mental picture to accompany what you are trying to remember, enhance the meaning, and attach a location to the memory. 

Furthermore, she encourages practical steps (many I had heard before): fuel the body with appropriate foods, get sufficient sleep, learn new things, and reduce stress when you can. Over and over, she differentiates between normal memory lapses and dementia-level lapses. I still think I exhibit some dementia-level lapses, but I will try to keep positive. I'm doing what I can to stave it off, but God knows whether I will succumb to the same end as my mother.

Monday, January 9, 2023

Book Review: Jingle All the Way

Prior to Christmas, I took easy audio book selection and stuck with Debbie Macomber Christmas novels. Jingle All the Way fit the bill again for a clean holiday read. It was a quick listen and a wholesome accompaniment to my treadmill time (all the more important with the allure of holiday treats). In this Christmas novel, we meet Everyly Lancaster (known to her family as Daisy). Everyly is a driven, high-powered executive intent on proving herself. Her business partner hires his young relative to serve as Everyly's assistant, but she's not equal to Everyly's expectations.

The inept girl wreaks revenge on Everly's demands by booking her on a holiday cruise, not on the intended beach, but down the Amazon river. How will Everly survive two weeks without internet access? Can she fight off the attraction to the ship's naturalist, Asher Adams? Does her life need a re-boot and will she take the steps to solidify what is most important to her? The dual name of the main character seemed unnecessary. She is rather loveable and you have to feel for her conundrum. Again, this was predictable, but still entertaining enough. If you're looking for a clean holiday read, you can count on Debbie Macomber.

Thursday, January 5, 2023

2022 Reading Analysis


I read 73 books in 2022. These books held 21,492 pages (of those pages, I listened to 343.75 hours of audio books). I read more fiction (43) than non-fiction (30) and more adult (63) than youth (10). As far as ratings, I think it was a great year. Most books (93%) were rated 3👍 or greater:

👍👍👍👍👍 - 9 books

👍👍👍👍-1/2 - 12 books

👍👍👍👍 - 16 books

👍👍👍-1/2 - 14 books

👍👍👍 - 17 books

👍👍-1/2 - 2 books

👍👍 - 2 books

👎 - 1 book


 

Monday, January 2, 2023

2022 Ends, 2023 Begins

The best part of our 2022 holiday season was a visit from our oldest son, Bryce. 

(I never think to take photos - this is the only photo we got during his visit.)

Since he lives near Dallas, Texas, we don't see him as often as we'd like. He intended to fly in late on Thursday, December 22nd. As news of the impending Midwest storm intensified, we worried about his travel and our travel to pick him up from the airport (30 minute highway drive away). He thanked me for alerting him to this wrinkle early on, before the masses were scrambling to change their flights. He secured a place on a Wednesday flight and worked from our home on Thursday.

Then our concern shifted to Trevor. He had to work from 4-10:30 on Thursday and they were predicting 3-5 inches of snow, drifting from gusting winds, and sub-freezing temperatures. He travels a long stretch of country roads on his way home from work and I was terrified that he would get stranded between drifts and freeze to death (yes, my mind always goes to the worst-case scenario). I prayed fervently that they would close early. Praise God, they closed at 5. He helped shut everything down and was safely home by 7 p.m.

The storm brought wicked cold temperatures. Bryce (accustomed to Texas weather) was wearing multiple layers and kept the guest room blazing hot - ha! Poor Toby! At first, he refused to go out to do his business. Then, we remembered last year's great gift of the matching "cool dog" and "cool dog dad" socks. Once we put those on him, he went out willingly. Isn't he adorable?


Friday morning, I woke to find frozen kitchen sink pipes. John had left the cabinet doors open and the sink dripping, but had left it dripping on the cold side, not thinking about the fact that we have separate cold and hot pipes leading to the faucet. Using a blow dryer for many minutes restored our hot water. Unfortunately, I ran the dishwasher without thinking that pipe/hose might have frozen too. The machine ran with no water. Praise God, my mistake didn't damage it. Once temperatures warmed up, it functioned perfectly again.

This was, perhaps, the most expensive December we have faced. Of course, the older your children get, the more expensive the gifts seem to be. But we had additional expenses compounding this. Sean's birthday is two days after Christmas and he requested a newer X-box. Plus, Trevor graduated early from high school and we purchased him a new laptop as his graduation gift. We had promised him a car stereo system for his birthday but didn't get around to purchasing this until December. Add in several cars in the shop for repairs (does this ever end?) and we felt like we were financially hemorrhaging. Still, we count our blessings.

Notable gifts or deals: Trevor bought me a lovely Bible cover, Bryce got me a much-needed phone mount for my car (plus a requested book), and John also gifted requested books, chocolates, and an 8-quart crock pot (not sure I'll keep the crock pot - it was so thoughtful to get the larger size, but most of the recipes I follow don't have sufficient liquid ingredients to cook effectively in the larger size - will have to think long and hard).


The best deals were for Bryce. I snagged a $30 Purdue cooler in Target's clearance for only $7.50. Although there were bigger purchases (sheets, dress pants, restaurant gift card, Purdue baseball cap), my best deal was on a second hand golf set. After several Facebook Marketplace sellers fell through, I happened upon someone selling a neutral color golf bag (why do so many men choose awful colors like red for their golf bags??) with 9 clubs, some tees, and a small bag of golf balls - all that for $15. Since Bryce only golfs here once or twice a year, it seemed pointless to purchase a brand new golf set.



The worst deal was a five-year planner I purchased on Amazon for John. Isn't the cover lovely?


Alas, the inside held horrible spacing (too small to jot daily notes) and misspellings:


Thankfully, I snagged two other splendid gifts for him - this bird lamp was a big hit:


And he loved the squirrel t-shirt:

Bryce's travel plans were once again up in the air at the end of his visit. It turned out he had a Southwest flight home and Southwest was cancelling thousands of flights. He couldn't afford to wait to see if they cancelled his flight. He felt an urgency to get home, so he left a day early, rented a car, and drove the 13 hours back to Dallas. His week-long visit was a blessing.

Another unexpected blessing during the holidays happened for Trevor. I noticed someone on NextDoor needing help with moving. They offered to pay and, even though we didn't know what the pay scale would be, it was on Friday afternoon when Trevor didn't work. He agreed, and the man contacted Trevor, offering him $25 an hour for six hours of work. When the scheduled Friday arrived, rain prompted them to begin early and Trevor arrived to find they already had all the help they needed. This gracious man paid Trevor the agreed $150. What a gift! Trevor told him that wasn't necessary, but the man insisted. We later sent a small oven glove with cookie mix to thank him for his generosity.

The end of a year always brings thoughts of resolutions and focus words. For 2023, I hope to actually read less (yes, my blog may suffer) and pray more. But I wanted to be intentional about this. After reading Amy Weinland Daughters' book, Dear Dana, I yearned to connect with my Facebook friends. Thus, I have set in motion my 2023 Prayer Project. Like Amy, I placed the names of my Facebook friends in a bag. A week before the year began, I alerted my friends on Facebook, promising to give them a heads up so they can communicate specific prayer requests. I drew the first 8 names and placed their name slips (with number) on 3x5 note cards. 

My plan is to pray for 3 to 5 minutes for each individual three times a day (with my morning devotions, in the afternoon, and just before bed). Even if they don't provide specific requests, I will beg for God's blessing, guidance, and love in their lives. So, my word for 2023 is PRAY. May I stand in the gap for close and distant friends. And if my blog posts taper off, know that I'm not reading because I'm busy interceding.